deep breaths; it's just a plant when it comes down to it.
salad for snails, snacks for springtails. home for ants.
your branching spike: phals can take anywhere from 90-120 days to go from spike to bloom. think zen thoughts at it and it will bloom if and when it darn well feels like it.
new spike will probably start next year; usually the chill of winter initiates spiking.
aerial roots are fine; just wet them down when you water the plant.
it sounds like you have an aerocone pot--those are good pots, let lots of air get to the roots. if you want to repot, you may be able to go right back into that pot; you don't want to go too big with phals.
some advice on repotting:
http://firstrays.com/potting.htm
your watering sounds fine; that's what i do with mine. the only change you may want to make is to water with water that has had a chance to air off for 24 hrs; i keep a bucket in the kitchen and water from that. most complex hybrids are pretty tough though and really don't care what you water them with.
other than that, i find that yelling at the plants a lot helps them bloom.
